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Monday | 16 September 2002
Children Your children are not

Children

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you...

(Kahlil Gibran from The Prophet)

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Last weekend I visited Jajang & Dina who just had a baby. They were so excited by the coming the baby. The baby had a big fat cheek and look so healthy. They couldn't stop talking and telling their story, gak ada bosan-bosannya cerita tentang kejadian yang mereka alami menjelang detik-detik kelahiran putri mereka itu. Termasuk saat rumah sakit mereka gelap karena satu Jakarta mati listrik hari kamis lalu.

Ya, I can feel their happiness too. Siapa sih yang gak senang dengan kelahiran anak pertama? Even the grandparents jadi ikut-ikutan sibuk, taking care of all the stuff. Semua harapan tertumpu pada sang anak. Semua mendoakan, memberi selamat, berharap kebaikan dan rahmat selalu terlimpah padanya.

But, having children not as easy as that. Mendengar berbagai pengalaman orang membesarkan anak-anaknya, I think it's such a hard work. Gak kepikir deh gimana susahnya mengatur kemauan anak-anak bila mereka mulai tumbuh remaja dan menjelang dewasa. Masa-masa di mana segalanya menjadi sangat menentukan dalam kehidupan mereka selanjutnya.

And also at that time, we can do much in their business. Pada masa-masa itu, orang tua juga tidak bisa terlalu banyak mengatur dan mengarahkan anak-anaknya. Give them a litle freedom to chose. But always guide them to chose the good ways. Dan memang sering kemauan orang tua berlawanan dengan kemauan sang anak. It's nature, cause they have their own toughts. Like Gibran once said, parents are only the "bows" which will have to lose the arrows, but must sent the arrows to right targets....

September 16, 2002 10:19 AM